who laura is

dr laura shaffer

Evolutionary integration

kink and intimacy coach | cannabis guide | transformational mentor

The more I learn, the less I know.

The more I grow, the more I feel stifled.

The more I evolve, the greater mountain I have to climb.

Embarking on my spiritual, energetic, and evolutionary journey has been a road full of unexpected twists, hidden passages, and moments of radiant brilliance—each one leaving me profoundly grateful to walk this path, however uncertain and winding it may be.

The call to evolve consciously and with intention came to me unexpectedly, a blessing and a challenge in equal measure. To look deeply at oneself, to choose growth again and again, is akin to beginning a marathon with no finish line in sight. The terrain becomes easier as we learn to navigate it, but the path we are called to follow is always the road less traveled.

Almost a decade ago, on my profound sojourn to live in New Zealand, a moment of intense clarity came to me. My family and I had settled ourselves into a sun-dappled home in New Zealand overlooking the stunning bay and nature reserve on the opposite shore. I still recall vividly the morning I walked into the living room with my coffee in hand and found myself suddenly overcome by the staggering beauty of the moment—by the life I had built, the choices I had made, and the incredible path that had led me here. It was in that instant that I realized I had achieved all my life’s dreams. Crashing into this moment of spiritual bliss was the sudden sense of loss of purpose and feeling like an anchor floating untethered in an endless ocean. I began to weep for a pain I couldn’t really understand.

What followed were years marked by deep grief, depression, and health struggles, including a life-threatening brain condition that required emergency surgery in Korea, all during the lockdown of the COVID pandemic. Life as I had previously known it began to fall apart around me, and the body that once felt strong and resilient now seemed fragile, each day a struggle to keep it together. On top of all this, perimenopause arrived like an unwelcome visitor, adding its own complexity to the already turbulent season.

Aspects of my past that have all played critical parts in my journey include a surviving a childhood filled with poverty, neglect, and abuse; suffering through the murder of my father when I was pregnant with my first child at 18; discovering sexuality and pleasure through BDSM; battling severe depression; embarking on a journey to understand why people do bad things and obtaining a PhD in Forensic Psychology to help answer this question; longing for sustainable systems change by developing a specialty in organizational change management; struggling through polyamory and grief to become a relationship anarchist; and embarking upon a spiritual re-awakening to dissolve the depth of unending loneliness in the core of my being.

Now, as I stand in the midst of my spiritual and energetic evolution, I have come to understand that every step—no matter how difficult—has been part of the unfolding journey. I care for myself more intentionally than ever, slowly moving through physical challenges, navigating the unpredictability of menopause, and peeling back layer after layer of myself in need of healing and witness. Each day is a new chapter in my spiritual evolution, where I learn more about myself, those around me, and the world that surrounds us all.

Throughout this journey, I’ve had the privilege of working with wise healers, guides, and guardians of ancient knowledge. I’ve connected with the energies that pulse through the very fabric of existence. These experiences have facilitated a profound understanding of my conditioned self, my authentic essence, and my relationship to the greater energetic and spiritual forces beyond the physical world.

Though I will forever be a work in progress, constantly evolving, I have gathered enough wisdom and intuition along the way to offer support to others on their own transformative journeys. One of my greatest teachers has been cannabis, which I work with regularly, weaving its healing energy into my conscious, intentional practices. It is a privilege to hold space for others, guiding them through their own processes of growth and self-discovery.

As a mentor and coach, my focus encompasses a variety of practices that nurture both the mind and spirit. These include hosting plant ceremonies, cultivating mindfulness, channeling movement and sound, and creating consent-based spaces. I am deeply committed to helping others strengthen their inner wisdom and intuition, while also exploring the healing power of sexual energy. Each of these areas serves as a doorway through which individuals can experience profound healing and transformation.

This journey, though constantly unfolding, is one I walk with deep gratitude and reverence. With each step, I continue to grow, learn, and share, ever humbled by the mystery and beauty of the path I am on.